Where do broken hearts go?

I am 22 and I have been in touch with a guy of 24 who is my far relative too. I have rejected his proposal several times but we’ve been in touch through Facebook and texts. Six months back I realized that I missed him too and finally accepted him. We’ve never met. We just chat or inbox. The problem is that, now he is asking me to leave him because of his health problem. He feels that I deserve a better partner. We’ve tried breaking up but we both can’t seem to tolerate that. We haven’t met or spoken to each other but still I don’t know how I landed up in this position. I want to live in the present and don’t care what the future holds, but he thinks that, in near future, this thing will hurt us even more. I am confused whether I should agree with him? I don’t want to but I am a little scared if what he says might come true. What should I do?

- Anzel

I feel you. Either way it is going to hurt. The question is - would you like to be hurt now, or would you like to be hurt later? This is the irony of life – there’s destiny, but we still have a choice as to how we want to reach that destiny. But then, we wonder why does it matter which road we choose if the destiny is going to be the same. I guess, at the end of the day, what matters is which road we took - that will make all the difference. I want you to know that you are powerful and that you have a choice. You have the strength you need to walk out from this relationship right now, as you will have the strength to face and survive the destiny whenever that comes. When you accept that, either way it is going to be painful, there is nothing to fear. When you let go of your fear and accept that you will have your strength with you when you need it, you can choose whichever road you want to take.



Dear Swastika,

I am in a long distant relationship for over a year exactly and we keep in touch via Skype and phone calls. He’s in India so I usually call him. But recently, when I call him, he says he’s busy and can’t talk and makes excuses. He hasn’t been showing up on Skype either. My friends did say that LDR’s don’t work but I wanted to prove them wrong. Is it that he’s losing interest in me? How can I rebuild this? Please help.

– Sujita



Once upon a time, a senior monk and his disciple were walking into the forest. As they approached a river, they saw a beautiful woman by the shore, unsure how she was going to cross the big river. The senior monk offered to help and carried her across. The woman thanked and left. The two monks walked for several days but the disciple was burning with a question in his mind. Finally after weeks, the disciple asked – “Master, isn’t it a terrible thing for a monk to be carrying a woman?” The master replied with a smile - “I carried her and dropped her off at the shore and forgot about it, but you seem to have been carrying her in your mind all along.” Just a different perspective into things (I don’t know the truth) – but is it possible that he got busy and you carried the incident too far and for too long?

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